I always wonder how women can be so cool when they reject guys. Recently I met a girl and she was sweet however, we were both not interested in any relationship. Things were ok until she started calling me with a pet name. I think its cool to call me that but when she keeps calling me with that name in public like Facebook and when we were around friends, things are getting a bit messy. She told me that she is sweet and I like sweet ladies, but there is a fine line on being friends and being lovers. Don't get me wrong, I may be sweet with my girl friends, but I do have a limit on how sweet I can be. I erased a number of her post because I don't think its appropriate and our common friends starting to tease us. Yes I admit that I may fall and deep inside I know she is not the one. Another thing, I am currently in a state of self re-building and would like to face the world alone. I literally missed a lot and would like to take my time being single.
There is another case. In our small organization, I was part of the head committees and I feel that part of our role is to ensure that most of our members are safe when they get home from our gathering. There was this girl who attended a recent gathering, though she was an old member of the organization already. I paid extra attention to her since she lives in Cavite. During the gathering, we would gang up with some of our members for fun and my mentality is that if you can joke about adult stuff, make sure that you are open when others joke about adult stuff too. So when she was throwing green jokes, I threw back a few which she thought was me sending her signals. Then on our way home, since we all came from Cubao, we all took the same bus together. Since she lives in Cavite, meaning it will take her longer to go home. Since I feel that her safety is part of my responsibility, I asked for her number from a common friend then I texted her. We also talked for a while because I think that I need to know more about our members and she mistook this as a sign of motive from me. I know I shouldn't feel anything, but when she told me that she likes me, and when our friends would tease me to her, I feel so awkward. I know I never had any experience in this end of the rope oh maybe when I was a kid, but I do not have any ideas at all on what to do.
As of the moment, I act the same when we text (both ladies) but just recently, I confronted the sweet lady that if it is ok, she shouldn't call me by my pet name in public. As I expected, she reacted differently and I think she took it personally because we were supposed to do a project and suddenly she bailed out. Now, I feel so bad for doing it but I know that it should be done. So it really questions me on how ladies can say no to guys and don't feel a thing.
