I find it funny how others would show the world that they are strong and they can survive life on their own. Funny how they claim that they do not need others for support. When almost every time I talk to them, they validate themselves to me.
Just recently, I started hanging out with someone and she is confident and I like it. However, the more we hang out, the more I can sense that amidst her confidence, are insecurities. It has been months since my last relationship and my perspective has changed. There are certain things that I do not believe in but I will never close my door on love.
Anyway, we are in a stage of getting to know each other and she keeps in validating herself by saying "the guy would be lucky to have me!" The confidence of that thinking is great, however, when almost every time we talk, I hear those validations I tend to know her insecurities more.
I learned to validate myself only when she validated herself first. I also learned not to validate all the time since this can lower my self esteem. I know I am a good catch and being one is way better than constantly blabbing about it.
Just recently, I started hanging out with someone and she is confident and I like it. However, the more we hang out, the more I can sense that amidst her confidence, are insecurities. It has been months since my last relationship and my perspective has changed. There are certain things that I do not believe in but I will never close my door on love.
Anyway, we are in a stage of getting to know each other and she keeps in validating herself by saying "the guy would be lucky to have me!" The confidence of that thinking is great, however, when almost every time we talk, I hear those validations I tend to know her insecurities more.
I learned to validate myself only when she validated herself first. I also learned not to validate all the time since this can lower my self esteem. I know I am a good catch and being one is way better than constantly blabbing about it.
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