On Love: Missing the moments...

It has been almost 2 years since me and my ex-girlfriend broke up. Personally, I didn't want to enter into any relationships even when I met a number of girls who are potential girl friends. I am still busy realizing my dreams.

However, just recently, I hanged out with a friend and memories starting flashing back. Not that I miss my ex girlfriend, but more of the moments we share. The cuddling, the sweetness, the laughter, and other memories most couples do.

My friend gave birth less than a year ago and she is now single. She isn't really looking for a relationship and do I. I just don't know why when we spent that moment together, I kinda missed those moments and I become so attracted to her. The way she whines about the smallest things, the way she would hug me and make faces.

We are both busy and after we hanged out, I always thought of spending more time with her and I know it is wrong. We both are in a situation where we are not looking for anything serious. I keep struggling to wake up from this charm and tell myself that I am only missing the moments...

In moderation... on losing weight...

Just recently, I had a epiphany. People do things in extreme. I started my journey on losing weight and since I had lost weight during college, I had some idea on what to do. However, how to lose weight is a common topic these days specially when people are into health and wellness. Here are two extreme example on how I find people funny.

A few months back, while prepping my mind and body to go back jogging, my business partner and good friend was sharing stuff on what I should do. His main point was, eat only foods that could help you lose weight the fastest and do a lot of exercises (no problem with me I just have to make time for this). The food he suggested were, tuna, chicken breast (which are ok since both are favorites of mine), root crops, oatmeal, and other weird food. While he was sharing this, I also said that I should have a cheat day so that I can still eat food I like. He contested that there is not point on dieting if I have my cheat day. He would be eating the same food all day long.

The exercise is not a problem, but his suggestion on what to eat was quite unusual. I have read magazines about having a cheat day. The reason for a cheat day is to make sure our body would not get used to the food we are eating. Also, what is the sense of advocating that we should live life when I keep starving myself and cutting my chances to eat good food. I may do cheat days, but I only make sure I have a cheat day a week and I know my limits on my intake of fats and carbs.

Then a week ago, while me and some friends were diving home from a wedding. Our topic shifted to me going back jogging. One of my friend said that jogging or any exercise doesn't help in losing weight that much. Unlike my other friend, he lost weight simple by cutting his food intake. He isn't into sports that much and his perception of exercise as a way of losing weight. Losing weight isn't the only benefit of exercising. Actually, there are tons of other benefits like an increase in endurance. Sweating can also help by clearing the pores on our skin and after each exercise, there is a feeling of euphoria. He then dismissed it as nonsense.

Yes, he may be blessed with a good metabolism, but not everyone is as blessed as him. If i rely only on cutting down on food, I then gave up eating good food and I might make it an excuse not to exercise. I do have a poor endurance and it is something I wanted to increase. I haven't achieved my goal of running in a 5K marathon yet. So it is still a goal I need to achieve.

Bottom line, is that people would tend to focus on what they have done rather than to adjust to what others can do. Mixing exercise and diet is really the best way to lose weight since by exercising, you burn calories, carbs and fats while toning your muscles. On the other hand, diet can help in maintaining what we eat to lessen unnecessary carbs or fats. Still there should be a cheat day so that we can enjoy our favorite food and other delicious meals. It is just a matter of sticking to your plan and try to work on it. We only live once and we shouldn't be starving ourselves to death.